Wake Up, Wise Up, Opt Out and Go Your Own Way
“We’re a generation of men raised by women; I wonder
if another woman is really the answer we need.”
“We are the middle children of history man; no
purpose or place. We have no Great War or Great Depression. Our great war is a
spiritual war; our great depression is our lives.”
–
Tyler Durden; Fight Club 1999
Awareness isn’t the ability to notice your environment.
Awareness is a shift in perception; it is paying mindful attention with wise
intention to the world. Too long have our minds been on auto-pilot; we do what
our mothers, teachers, lovers, wives, communities, society and government tell
us what to do and what is good. We simply abide by them without questioning is
it really good and who is it good for; like sheep to the shepherd and cattle to
the slaughterhouse.
Mother raised you to be a good son – to her. Teachers
taught you to behave properly – in her class. Your lover and wife nag you to do
things; to get a job, to buy a big house, a fancy car – because it is good for
her life. Community, society and government claim and dictate to you that
having a family and status is what a man should do and should be. All these
people – the women in your life and society at large – tell you the same thing;
that to be a ‘real man’ is to please them.
Women and the community tell their sons that good boys
listen to their mothers. Women and teachers taught you that your future relied
on you behaving and thinking the way they tell you to. Women and society told
you that you should get married and work to pay for that wife and for that
society to be an upstanding citizen. They tell you to do all these things for
them but they conveniently neglect to ask you what you think a man is and what
kind of a man you want to be.
When you want to do things just for yourself, they scold
you for being selfish. When you don’t do the things they tell you to, they
accuse you of being a loser, immature, to grow up and man-up, that you have an
obligation to women and society, to treat them right. To society and women,
you’re only a man if you’re able to appeal to women, if you’re able to fulfill
their wants and needs, to make them happy.
They are saying to you that your manhood is not what you
think it is but whatever they say it is.
Hence, you spend your entire life working towards someone
else’s happiness and wondering why you’re unhappy, wondering why you never seem
to measure up, wondering why you’re always tired and depressed, wondering why
your life is hollow and empty. They don’t want to tell you that your own
happiness, your manhood and your life is your freedom of choice.
Awareness is making a shift towards that freedom. It is
the understanding that your manhood is determined not by the clothes you wear,
not the accessories you own, not the car you drive, not the place you live, not
the amount of money you have, not the women that you’re able to attract nor is
it the amount you paid for her expenses; it is none of these.
Being a man is about taking back control of your life
from what women and society demands of you. Being a man is reclaiming your
choice to lead your own life from those who stole that freedom from you. Being
a man is to discover and explore your own life, to pursue your own passion, to
enjoy doing the things you want to do and to share what you enjoy with others.
The truth is you don’t need any woman to be a man; Isaac
Newton, Nikola Tesla, Galileo Galilei, Ludwig van Beethoven, The Wright
Brothers, Michelangelo, Leonardo Da Vinci, Miyamoto Musashi, Admiral Zheng He
were historical figures who never married and still led enriching lives. They
understood that life is not about appeasing women and that blindly fulfilling the
demands and expectations of society is wrong.
They woke up from simply following customary beliefs and
traditions. They wised up from the exploitative influence of women and society.
They opted out of a life of trying to constantly please everyone else and
decided to pursue what they wanted to, to become who they wanted to be and go
their own way. They had the awareness – the mindful attention with wise
intention – that being a man meant that you had to wake up, wise up, opt out
and go your own way.
We are indeed the generation raised by women and
the answer is not to be shackled down to yet another woman. We are the middle
children of history because we have lost the insight of our own purpose and
place. Our great war is our freedom of choice and our great depression is
indeed our lives.
Wake Up,
Wise Up, Opt Out and Go Your Own Way.
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