Cats in the Cradle

As you know, our friend flailer is a father who wants to reconcile and reconnect with his son. He elaborated to me in private about his son and I got a good enough picture to understand the situation and I think many MGTOWs here are in the same boat.

What struck me most is how similar flailer’s situation is with my father and his children and then it struck me that this is probably what many fathers faced with their children too i.e. the sons (and daughters but let’s focus on the sons) hate the father for whatever reason regardless of whether it’s true or false. 

I realized then that this is happening in Asia too – it’s a worldwide epidemic - but like many things, it is simply ignored. And when I looked at how my family turned out and compare it with other families whose children grew up to be addicts, criminals and degenerates, it got me thinking on why my family turned out alright considering. 

To start with, let’s look at some statistics, taken from The Fatherless Generation

• 63% of youth suicides are from fatherless homes (US Dept. Of Health/Census) – 5 times the average.
• 90% of all homeless and runaway children are from fatherless homes – 32 times the average.
• 85% of all children who show behavior disorders come from fatherless homes – 20 times the average. (Center for Disease Control)
• 80% of rapists with anger problems come from fatherless homes –14 times the average. (Justice & Behavior, Vol 14, p. 403-26)
• 71% of all high school dropouts come from fatherless homes – 9 times the average. (National Principals Association Report)
• Father Factor in Drug and Alcohol Abuse - Researchers at Columbia University found that children living in two-parent household with a poor relationship with their father are 68% more likely to smoke, drink, or use drugs compared to all teens in two-parent households. Teens in single mother households are at a 30% higher risk than those in two-parent households.

Looking at the statistics we can make a safe assumption that fathers play a crucial role in a child’s development and that having a good relationship with your father actually helps you grow into a (more or less) upstanding individual. 

These statistics are revealing and when I look at them I can see a reflection of this in my father’s family as well as my society in general. Now, I can’t in good conscience give advice on something that I don’t have any experience in i.e. I don’t have my own children. 

But, what I want to do is share my experience with my father. I mean I look back in my life and I turned out okay considering I had friends who became addicts, criminals and developed personality disorders. 

Papa Don’t Preach

I don’t want to divulge too much but I think it’s important that I give you a background of my family a bit more. My mom suffers from Narcissistic Abuse from my crazy and exploitative grandmother and true to tropes my mom seeks out relationships that mirror this pattern. 

This is where my father comes in. He does have a narcissistic streak i.e. he is arrogant and he has really bad boundaries issue. But he’s not narcissistic without good reason; he’s really a successful guy and achieved much hence his arrogance was not misplaced. 

He is an asshole but he’s not an asshole for no reason. 

It’s important that I point out that this doesn’t mean that my mom or dad has a Narcissistic Personality Disorder or any of the DSM cluster B personality disorders. No, it’s all a matter of degree and my parents though very troubled are not in the same category of those who do suffer from Personality Disorders. 

Back to the point, why is this important? Well, you have a narcissistically abused mother in a lifetime relationship with a narcissistic man; just imagine what their life is like and how that affected their children. I mean seriously, this is some fucked up shit and I am amazed that most of my siblings came off relatively unscathed (most). 

This however, is no excuse for any of theirs or their children’s behavior.

Remember, as men we own up to our own shit and this is how we differentiate ourselves from women who constantly blame others for their own faults. We do not ever want to be like this. Thankfully both my parents – after decades – finally own up to their own shit and that’s why they’re getting along now. 

A Boy Named Sue

Right, so my siblings and I grew up listening to my mom complain and bad-mouthing my dad; this is really normal and it happens in every household. Not that she was right (because half of what she claims is just dead wrong) but the way she said it made my dad out to be an Evil Man. 

Evil as in Criminally Evil and that is just not the case. 

My dad might be an asshole but he wasn’t evil. However, because my dad was constantly being an asshole to me and my siblings, along with my mother’s constant bad-mouthing, that picture of dad being an Evil Man whether true of false was made real. 

Repeat something often enough and people will start believing in it. 

This didn’t happen in a day; I remember growing up till I was 10, loving my father and always happy seeing him around. It was only during my teen years that all that brainwashing – unintentional maybe but effectively it was brainwashing – really took effect and it got to me and all of my siblings. 

We hated our dad and our hatred was disproportional to the actual truth. I became Herbivore because of that initially even though at the same time I knew that my grandma, my mom and older sister were crazy. I didn’t want to be my dad but I also didn’t want to be my mom; I really had a crisis when I was a teen.

This kind of crisis can literally and figuratively make someone go insane and hence, you get the statistics above; teen suicide, drug and alcohol abuse, behavior disorders, school dropouts and crime but not one person in my family – not one of us – grew up having those problems (ok, behavior disorders notwithstanding). 

The question is why and how my siblings and I escaped being part of the statistic when many of our friends and extended families went down that path. 

I always thought that my siblings and I were simply smart enough and knew better but I’m just being full of myself and I knew that. I saw what my father did; I recognized it and subconsciously I appreciated him for it even though my attitude towards him suggested otherwise at the time.

The truth is, even though my father went through a rough decade with his children - we hated him, we didn’t talk him, we avoided him, we openly disrespected him, him and his wife were technically separated – despite all that, he was always there. 

He was always there, for us, for his family. He never abandoned us. 

Unknowingly, this had a significant psychological impact on his children, me included. We were brainwashed for so long into thinking that this was an Evil Man but despite all of that and him indeed being an asshole, he was still there and he helped us when we needed it. 

And when I spent time with him I saw him being loved by his friends and extended family. I know one of his friends – who my father helped and then became a successful heart surgeon – always attended to the family and never charge a dime for consultation. That is how much my father was loved. 

So as I grew older, I saw my father and I thought “Okay, he is an asshole but he’s not really a bad guy; in fact he’s a good guy in some cases.” 

I did have disagreements with my dad e.g. my father is a traditionalist, I’m not; he’s Liverpool FC, I’m Manchester United FC (I can hear the collective jeer and taunts from BPL fans), he’s a white knight and I never was; despite all of this, when I needed him he was always there. He was on my side.

And this is in my humble opinion, more than anything, is what really made the difference; my father being there for his children and being on our side when we needed him 

Note that it took us a decade to come around acknowledging that he wasn’t what we pictured him to be but no one was there to tell us we were wrong about our dad; we had to learn and realize this all by ourselves.

I may be arrogant in saying this but I was the first one to tell the others that, “Hey, you know what, dad isn’t so bad.” And my siblings (minus my older sister), would be, “Wow, you’re a dumbass. Why do say so?”

Which I replied, “Well, he is an asshole but he’s paying your shit right? When you got into trouble with so and so, he bailed you out, yes?” And I didn’t realize it, but I was planting a seed in their heads and mine.

That seed took time to grow, even in me but it grew and as the years went by, I made the first real reconciliation with dad. I apologized to him for being an asshole son and we really connected after that.

The rest weren’t so forward but they’ve mellowed in their anger and hatred and eventually made up with my dad. And credit to him, my dad realized that he was an asshole and changed; he’s still a little bit of an asshole but not by much; hey, old habits die hard.

Just the Two of Us

I had a conversation with my dad about this and he gave me a good piece of advice which I can personally vouch for; don’t try too hard.

I know this is very difficult for a lot of people but if you try too hard, you’re making the other person – the person you care about – feel smothered especially when he has a negative image of you. You only come out seemingly disingenuous.

You’re not starting from 0 working to +10, you’re starting from -10 working your way to 0 and that’s a monumental difference. I stated before that you can’t force Red Pill on another person and this is doubly true with the person you love.

It’s a process; it takes time; years perhaps but you got to realize that you’re working against a decade’s worth of brainwashing.

I really don’t know if my situation is applicable in the western world because there are cultural differences between the West and the East. But I think the core of it is the same; I like to think that, that bond a father has with his children and the children’s connection with their father is almost universal.

I do know of cases where sons grew up hating their father till death. Again, I simply don’t know enough of the details to comment. I only know the circumstances of my family and how we became the way we are, according to the culture and the era that we lived in.

I haven’t quite nailed it yet but I hope at the very least, people who read this will see things that I don’t and they can then share their experiences and then we men can learn how to reach out to our children especially during this age of the fatherless generation.

Suggestions on Spreading the Red Pill

Even though I think it’s a little early to be commenting on this, I thought I should at least get the ball rolling. I hope that other members also weigh in their thoughts and experiences. 

Again caveat; these are my opinions and you need to see if it can apply to you. Just because it works for me, doesn't necessarily mean I'm right or that it will work for you. Always test it out. 

Like how Morpheus offered Neo the choice of the Blue and Red Pill, you cannot force the Red Pill on someone; it won’t go down well. The person has to choose to take the Red Pill himself and you can only offer it to those who are receptive. 

Engaging Women

Oh yeah, we do need to begin here. 

Why do we need to argue with women? We don’t and we don’t necessarily have to but there are times when we are pulled into an argument for even stupidly remote reasons. We need to defend ourselves from this and my aim for the Female Psychosis series is to help men to do just that. 

We’re often confounded and exasperated when arguing at length with women because we don’t know how they think and how to respond. If we knew, then we can strategically and tactically address each argument objectively and find the optimal solution for the best possible outcome. 

Remember, the goal is not to win the argument against an opponent who won’t admit defeat; the goal is to make them feel defeated. 

Other reasons I’ve already covered in Part 4 of my Female Psychosis series. 

Men of the Matrix (Non-Red Pillers)

In real life, no one can simply give the Red Pill without evoking some kind of reaction. Some men will take it objectively while others won’t. This is why I wrote the Male Mother Need; to address the problem of the ‘Ideal Women Fantasy’ that most if not all men seem to have. 

Karen Straughan aka GirlWritesWhat commented that for Blue Pillers, listening to Barbarossaa’s videos feels like walking in a haze and suddenly smashing into a brick wall. Straughan likes his materials but stated that his impassioned style and content is too harsh for the men in the matrix.

And she’s absolutely right. 

I know this from my own experience. If men have this idea in their minds that all women (or theirs) are angels then they’ll vehemently disagree when someone comes along telling them that their women aren’t; no matter how right you are. This isn’t Solipsism, rather a self-delusion and I once gave the example of Bernard Boursicot to highlight the power of this self-delusion. 

So how do we shatter this delusion?

That is where youtubers like Sandman are so influential. He eases the transition from Blue Pill to Red Pill by giving context to the problem where what we want to say actually makes sense. 

In our daily lives, talking about the other person’s relationship problems with family and lovers is a good start. Don’t immediately jump in with Red Pills but just provide a commentary, a remark with examples on women’s general behavior but you really need to know your stuff and this takes a lot of practice. 

What you’re doing is

1. Building rapport, earning his trust and show him that you’re on his side

2. To assure him that he’s not crazy for thinking and feeling the way he does about his women.

If he’s got no problems with his women then drop the subject and don’t pursue. It may be that he doesn’t trust you yet which means you need to build more rapport or maybe he hasn’t experience the entirety of women’s behavior which means you only need to give him time. 

And that’s all that it is, Time, Effort and Opportunity.

It’s a continuous process, not a single event. You need to find opportunities to give him small doses of Red Pills when the circumstance permit you e.g. if he makes a comment about his wife nagging, give him a small dose of Red Pill there, nothing controversial but just planting a seed so that seed will grow in the back of his mind. 

Planting the Seed

These are suggestions on seeding the Red Pill. You want to build a foundation so that when you give him the actual pill, he’ll be more receptive to take it. 

The first one is conversation starters, like sirreaper’s thread here (by the way reaper this is an awesome thread, kudos and much rep to ya). Use stuff like these as small talks to your friends; comment about it, laugh about it, discuss it – anything. You’re trying to implant the image of what women are into their minds but you need to build it up.

Second, and this idea is from Jagrmeister and it is a good idea; you can also use leading questions to measure what the man thinks about women e.g. “You know about the story of that girl who keeps condoms of men on her wall? What do you think of that?” 

And listen to what he says, look at his body language, does he scoff at the idea? Do he give nawalt and bwalt excuses? Does he just shrug? These are cues but you need to learn the man’s behavior to approximately guess what he really thinks. This takes a ton of practice. 

You know when you can get through to him when he confides with you regarding his troubled relationship (if he has any). And that’s when you need to be careful; don’t rush in. What you want to do here is to introduce the Red Pill and not divulge the entire catalogue of Red Pill wisdom. 

Don’t bombard him with everything just let him know that there are a lot of others in similar situations and there is a place where he can learn to protect himself. He’ll press if he’s curious and so you need to give him examples and you need to know your stuff inside out. 

Remember, you’re having a conversation with him, you’re not trying to recruit him or change his mind; that is his choice. He might be a traditionalist and wants a family badly (especially if he’s a real Asian); that’s fine and don’t disagree. You’re not giving him your opinion per se, you’re providing him information. 

It might be that he transition from Blue Pill to Purple Pill; this is fine too. We need to realize that not everyone will agree on being MGTOW, at least not so soon. Red Pill is most potent on men who have really suffered at the hands of women. For those who haven’t they don’t see the need to and unfortunately that’s how life is. 

But if we can get them out of the Blue Pill, that’s a start and that is still a win for us, at least that’s my opinion of it. 

If You Fail

I have failed so many times before I got good at this so if you fail don’t sweat it. When I was a teen, I have had the entire family up in arms against me when I pointed out something wrong. 

Continue to build rapport; it's all about Time, Effort and Opportunity. 

No one taught us how to be good at this and so it’s all trial and error and tons and tons of practice. You need to learn the hard approach and soft approach as well as when and why you apply them. I’ll try to cover more about this in the future. 

Children of the Matrix

This is unchartered territory for many MGTOWs and we don’t have a lot of experience in this. However, I think we should at least open a discussion regarding how we free our sons from the system. 

I thought about it but I realize that there are so many factors to consider; the Male Mother need of the son; the spousification of the son by the mother; the brainwashing of the son against the father; the effects of divorce on children; the gynocentric and misandric environment the son lives in; our sons own exposure to girls; the level of maturity in the son’s thinking process as well as; normal physical changes taking place in the son as he matures. 

I don’t have an informed opinion on many of these things unfortunately. 

However, I do think it’s better to do something than nothing and so, I think my approach to Non-Red Pillers in general is good for the time being to address the children of the matrix. 

TL/DR

1. You can’t force the Red Pill, you can only offer. 

2. Blue Pillars must voluntarily take it; if he rejects don’t pursue.

3. Build rapport, earn his trust and assure him you’re on his side.

4. Ease the Blue Piller into taking the Red Pill; don’t rush things.

5. It’s a continuous process; not a single event. 

A good book to read about building rapport is Dale Carnegie’s How To Make Friends and Influence People. It is rather corny and old-fashioned but I grew up with this book and it still has many applications that can be used today. 

Also, watch Sandman’s videos and learn his delivery style as well as content. Karen Straughan is pretty good too. I think I got the ball rolling. I’ll revisit this in the future. I think many of our members have good experiences that they can share; methods that I didn’t think of, mentioned or tried. 

Also, feel free to disagree with me if you do, and recommend better options

Hamsterfell

HamsterFell

When I use the term Gynocracy, I am referring to the society that is governed on the principals of ‘for women’ and ‘women only;’ Gynocentrism and Feminism. Feminism is the belief system – the faith, the religion – while Gynocentrism represents the values upheld by that society. Gynocracy then is a type of monarchy where the state of affairs is effectively and unfortunately governed by psychotic or neurotic women who think they are royals – female versions of Henry VIII if you like. And my family has the ‘privilege’ of having this lineage.

My grandmother on my maternal side has never worked a single day in her life. She doesn’t cook, she doesn’t clean and she receives financial support from state welfare as well as from her sons in law, chief of them my father. She is mad, for example when I was 10, she came back from a spiritual experience and was convinced that God had cleansed her body and as evidence, she claimed that her farts don’t stink anymore.

Wtf?

Then there’s my mother who had sacrificed her life in the service of raising and nurturing her family – which everyone acknowledges is infinitely grateful for – but uses this as evidence that she has been victimized her entire life. For your knowledge, this is what is termed as Narcissistically Abused. Needless to say, nobody takes her seriously. Next in the line of succession is my older sister, the classic feminist; entitled, loud, abrasive and melodramatic who mistreats everyone around her including other women and not feeling ashamed or guilty about it. And I fought with all these women and their rationalization hamsters.

I didn’t know it at the time, but these 3 ladies of my family are the archetype of women’s maladaptive behavior. There are variations and degrees but it was endemic and disturbing. Living under the reign of these 3 was a nightmarish experience but I lived, I adapted and I moved on. And I would like to share what I’ve learned, in particular my mother’s Hamster.

How Mother’s Hamster Fell

I waged a near two decade crusade against my mother’s Hamster. I was the first and for a long time the only one in my family to stand up to her bullshit. I argued with her and often I would lose; she would shut me down by shaming me, “You think you’re so clever don’t you? You’re just a little boy!” This was effective for 2 reasons; one, I was just 13 so technically she’s right; second, I was her son and in Asia we are taught not to disrespect our elders. But I never stopped exposing my mother’s foolishness and it honed my perspective of the female mind. I found ways to retaliate successfully, so when she tried to shame me again another time I answered, “Yeah, well, I might be young and stupid mom, but I know nobody likes you because you’re unbearable.”

I said in calm and matter-of-factly way that really got to her. I didn’t know it at the time because I’ve never seen that look but it was shame that was on her face. She was ashamed of herself. She didn’t change though; it seemed my efforts were futile but I continued my siege campaign against her even when I didn’t see any results. In the beginning, my brother (the other herbivore) and my little sister would often reprimand me, “Why are you arguing with mom? It’s not nice!” they snapped. “No, that shit she is saying is not nice and it’s wrong. Someone has to set her straight,” I answered. My two siblings were baffled at my stance and it was during these times I often wondered if it was worth it. But it was; my quarrels with my mother revealed the Hamster lurking inside her mind for my siblings to witness and they saw her for what she was. Now keep in mind that in Asia we don’t have a term for the Hamster. In fact, I just called it ‘the crazy,’ which in retrospect was exactly right. 

They began to recognize it in her and in other women like her such as my older sister. Perhaps indirectly due to this, my brother was spared as he watched his Blue Pill friends marry into the system and turned haggard. And after constantly witnessing my mother’s immaturity, my little sister shaped herself to be a true self-reliant person and not just another parasite. I take solace in the knowledge that perhaps, my war helped my younger siblings with their lives. However I can’t take credit for defeating my mother’s Hamster. No, that honor would have to go to them. After a teenage eternity, my siblings began reprimanding mom too. By then she had become receptive to criticism and was listening to the both of them without resistance. Still, mom and dad were on the brink of divorce, nudged and encouraged by my older sister but my little sister was hopeful that our parents would stay happily together again. I gotta admit, hearing her say that really got to me.

And so we kept at it and mom gradually changed, until finally 2 years ago, she finally relented. She made up with dad, acknowledged her faults (though she never admitted it out loud), really worked on her behavior, was nicer to everyone and she dialed down her crazy by 80%. Oh the Hamster lives; I don’t think it can ever die. Still, my siblings did it; they downed the Hamster. And my dad was and still is grateful; I think he realizes that his kids (the good ones anyway) were fighting for his sake too. 2 years on and they’re doing alright; mom has been consistently behaving well and is happy.

And that is how my mother’s hamster fell.

Actually, it was a lot more complicated then how I described; I just gave you the MTV version. And even though I don’t favor traditionalism, I realized back then that it wasn’t about going my own way; it was about mom, dad and their happiness. Their generation is passing so if they should enjoy what peace and happiness they have left. As for me, I thought my war was over but then I took the Red Pill 3 months ago and I realized that war was being waged across the globe and I need to help the cause. It’s not just me going my own way; it’s about men going their own way.

Looking back, it’s arduous fighting against an established regime with complex defenses and mechanisms especially when you had to fight it from scratch but I believe that if my experiences can teach other men to fight their battles and win their wars, we can bring down the Gynocracy starting with the Hamster; like how my siblings and I did.

With this, I also want to share my study on the female mind from my unending crusade against the Gynocracy and the ‘crazy.’ I hope you find it useful.

The Female Psychosis part 1: Egocentrism

The Female Psychosis part 2: Narcissism

The Female Psychosis part 3: Solipsism

The Female Psychosis part 4: The Rationalization Hamster

I really do thank you guys for reading!

The Female Psychosis part 4: The Rationalization Hamster

written for Going Your Own Way forum. Awaiting review

Let me say that hunting down and reading the online materials regarding the various explanations on the Realization Hamster has been arduous. However, many of the literature and commentary that I have read were indeed helpful even when I do not agree with some of them. I am going to take the opportunity here to address some of the commentary that I find relevant as a starting point to the Hamster discussion.

The Rationalization Hamster is a combination of Self-Discrepancy, Cognitive Dissonance and Rationalization theories: AGREED - Yes and my theories actually support these theories as much as these theories support mine. Read them to get a better perspective of the Hamster. Kudos to bsutansalt of TRP and vote this up if you’re a member.

The Hamster is a Logic Wheel: FALSE - If you read my article on Solipsism, you know why this is false. The Hamster is not spurred on logic; it is driven by emotions, wants and needs thus are often irrational. The Hamster appeals to your feelings, not your rationale.

Men have the Hamster too: WRONG - This myth is extremely prevalent among Blue Pill and Red Pill women.  The argument is that men rationalize their behavior as much as women. This is fucking bogus and I’ll tell you why. First, rationalization means giving excuses; this is what a child does and we forgive children because they don’t know any better. Women give excuses far too often and they receive the Pussy Pass. But when men give excuses, we condemn him (as we should) for acting like a child. Men don’t forgive other men for their excuses; we punish him when he’s doing wrong. What men do is not rationalization but justification. We give evidence to attempt, prove and convince others that what we say, do or think is right. Rationalization is pleading to another person’s emotional sense while justification is convincing another’s intellectual sense; that’s the difference. And if you see any man and woman making excuses for his or her actions without just cause, reprimand them and don’t let them get away with it or you’ll just enabling their behavior.

The Hamster implies women are stupid: NOT EXACTLY - This one is taken from KittyHamilton -- a Blue Pill woman -- in the PurplePillDebate Subreddit. If you read my article on Solipsism I explain the difference between stupidity and having a solipsistic view.  My definition of the Rationalization Hamster implies that women are insane and infantile to varying degrees; and I have given evidence why I can sufficiently claim so.

You can use the Hamster to your advantage (in game): WHATEVER - This one is made by veggie_girl in TRP. Yeah, I don’t care.

Now that we have covered that, I will move on to explain what I believe the Hamster really is. Now I admit that as far as the theories in this series go, this one is the hardest to explain and to pin down simply because there hasn’t been anyone to have really studied it. This is my attempt to investigate the Hamster but much like a Black Hole swimming in the ocean of the vast universe, you can only speculate – with some approximation and within a reasonable margin of errors – the nature of the Hamster in the subterranean and convoluted recesses of the female mind.

I will admit, that I might be entirely wrong and making a fool of myself but I don’t think I am.

Regardless, I think this article is a good starting point to really understand what the Hamster is, how it operates, why does it seem invincible and how does it sustain itself with the added bonus of some personal suggestions on how to defeat it.

Yes, there is a way to defeat the hamster.

The Number of the Beast

Let us recap.

In parts 1, 2 and 3 of this series I explained with evidence of apparent Female Psychoses. From there, we know that most if not all women are Egocentric, Narcissistic and Solipsistic to varying degrees and these 3 mental conditions are related and support each other as shown in the diagram above. The relationship between these 3 separate but similar mental conditions is crucial because it highlights the psychology of the female mind and the Rationalization Hamster is born from that mind. So, if you have not read the previous parts of this series, I suggest you do or you will not be able to fully appreciate the nature of the Hamster.

So what definitions do we have when people talk about the Hamster? One definition says that

’It is the tendency for women to use rationalization to resolve mental conflict and avoid cognitive dissonance. The core mechanism that allows women to say one thing and do different a thing.’

The Red Pill subreddit

This definition is too general and implies that men have the Hamster too which men do not. The problem with this definition is the ‘core mechanism’ part of it. I explained in the previous articles that women say and do different things because of the naturally occurring egocentric nature of Relativistic Hedonism which is apparent in all children who have solipsistic view of the world. The definition also implies that the Hamster rationalizes first before the woman acts and this is contradictory. If we look at how children behave; they will act first before thinking and when they have committed a faux pas, they would then give excuses. Rationalizing then only comes after the action is performed and not before hence the above definition is inaccurate; but it’s pretty close.

The Private Man (2011) probably offered the best explanation of the Hamster;

The rationalization hamster is an analogy for the thought processes used by women to turn bad behavior and bad decisions into acceptable ones to herself and her friends. When a woman makes a bad decision, the hamster spins in its wheel (the woman’s thinking) and creates some type of acceptable reasons for that bad decision. The crazier the decisions, the faster the hamster must spin in order to successfully rationalize away the insanity.  When the hamster rationalizes successfully, a woman can divorce herself from the consequences of her bad decision or behavior.

My only criticism of this however, is that it is an explanation of what the Hamster does, not what it is. Despite that, Private Man has laid down some fine observations regarding the Hamster. For one, he observed that the Hamster does spin the wheel faster when women behave more erratic, thus we can safely presuppose that the Hamster is a product of a larger female systemic psychosis; women are mentally ill. Second, Private Man observed that after the Hamster successfully rationalizes a dysfunction, the woman self-vindicates from the results of her actions; this statement here is key and I agree with this observation for it alludes to the core purpose of the Hamster.

You see, we know women are crazy and that they rationalize their madness but we never asked why women act insane; we always assume that they were born that way (which is controversially true) but what need does a woman have to be mentally retarded when we know they are capable of critical thought. This is the contradiction and I believe all of this goes back to the female psyche of Egocentrism, Narcissism and Solipsism.

Hence, I hypothesize that below is what the Hamster really is.

Kyo’s Model of the Female Psychosis: The Rationalization Hamster

Please note that even though I tried my best to make it sensible, this is still a working model. If anyone would like to enhance this model, be my guest. Note, that I won’t be doing like Sunshine Mary (2013) and give a Hamsterlation of various female lies and nonsense; we have all heard them and like what The Private Man rightly observed, the end result is always “it’s not my fault.” What I would like to do is expand on The Private Man’s observation.

Schism

In part 1 of my series, I stated that for the Egocentric, they can only see their point of view and hence are often unable to accost or acquiesce with the facts of reality. And again this is the key purpose of the Hamster; the egocentric is unable to reconcile her own wants and desires with the truth of reality and so she makes excuses for the purpose of escaping reality and retreat to the only place she knows to be safe for her which is her own mind.

What the Rationalization Hamster is all about, is creating a Safe Space for the woman. 

That is why women are solipsistic because they feel safe in their own minds where they do not ever doubt themselves. Women fear reality and they build defenses and mechanisms to protect them from the harshness of the real world. Being not able to cope with real life, they would obviously feel ashamed of themselves but they cannot handle shame because that would mean they are worthless which would cause them to doubt themselves and so, they rationalize their thoughts, speech and behavior in an attempt to convince themselves that what they had done is justified for them.

And if you look at my model, you will notice that I painted the center black. This represents the woman’s Insecurities; they subconsciously realize that they are wrong because in the real world dysfunctional behavior is unacceptable for adults but they cannot accept their own weaknesses. So, instead of dealing their insecurities like an adult they nurtured an extraordinary beast to protect them from those feelings of insecurities. The woman’s shame led to her Narcissism, her doubt for the world led to Solipsism and her fear for reality led to her Egocentrism.

The Hamster’s true purpose then is to protect the woman's Insecurities; her fear of reality, her own shame of her self-worth and the doubt that she has in her mind. It is the bastion of a woman’s Safe Spaces.

And because the woman believes that only she is right and thus reality is wrong, and she cannot cope with her own insecurities, she makes effort to change reality to make it conform to her mental vision of a Safe Space in the real world. Feminism and Gynocentrism is that vehicle for her to realize that fantasy and to turn every place she inhabits into a safe space for her, even if it intrudes on others. How feminists were able to fool all women into participating in this facade is by using the Hamster to appeal to other women’s own insecurities against a make believe enemy that is vague and readily identifiable; the Patriarchy.

The Patriarchy is in fact a delusion made to represent the real world; a world full of Unsafe Spaces for the woman, a world that would humiliate her, makes her doubt her worth and image.

And why do this fear, doubt and shame persist in the woman? It all goes back to part 2 of my series. I mentioned that men have good self-confidence and self-image because we evaluate our worth according to the work we do and not how people perceive us. Men don’t give a fuck about what people think as long as we enjoy what we want to do and are good at doing it. Women, because they are afraid of the real world, they fear being embarrassed and fearful to admit that they are not all what they assume to be, found comfort and attention in others and translated this to self-image and self-worth hence, they did not find the need to improve themselves.

This means that the dysfunction and malfunction of women will never be resolved; there is and always will be a disparity between the female Safe Space and the real world. That is why women continue to want for more stuff – resources, status, security etcetera -- because these things do not fix the real problem, which is for those very women to grow up. They need to fend for themselves, confront the hardships of the world, learn to live with their embarrassment and foster a strong confident self-worth that is not tied with public perception. To do that, we men need to stop pandering women and start making them compete – really compete – with us in the real world.

We need to treat women like they are true competitive rivals. They need to work hard to get food, shelter and the comforts of life that they all take for granted.

Killing ‘Me’ Softly

Now that we have identified the Hamster we can devised strategies to defeat it and no, there is no polite way of doing it. The good news is, MGTOW and Herbivore Men have correctly guessed how to defeat the Hamster and have taken necessary steps. I am going to give suggestions on how to defeat the Hamster and though I have found that it works for me, this is anecdotal at best and at worst isolated and circumstantial. Please read and consider if it applies to your situation and if it does not, abandon my suggestions, form your own and share with as many people as you can.

But first we identify the goal. In my previous 3 articles you might have noticed that I did not address how to deal with each mental condition; that is because the best time to deal with egocentrism, narcissism and solipsism is when you are young. Since we are a little late to the party, there was no point of me telling you how to deal your child’s childish behavior. And since they had ample time to develop, all 3 mental conditions have consolidated and form a strong structure which is the Hamster.

The Hamster is superbly proficient in deflecting, defending and retaliating against mental assaults, reason and criticism because all 3 of egocentrism, narcissism and solipsism are acting as a single unit and it spins the wheel that is Feminism and Gynocentrism which include Misandry and the Pussy Pass. So you cannot use a single strategy to defeat the Hamster; it has to be a united and concerted siege campaign.

First, if you look at the model, you can see that Feminism does not contribute directly to any of the mental conditions. This is because Feminism is simply a politicized manifestation of the Female Psychoses; it is the Female Psychoses except bigger thus it contributes nothing except expanding the female Safe Space with the help of Gynocentrism. And Gynocentrism feeds the Hamster with Narcissistic Supply and the Pussy Pass or male dismissive attitude towards female dysfunction.

The female solipsism forms the basic tenets of Feminism that in turn, encourages society to be more gynocentric. Gynocentrism enables women’s maladaptive patterns of behavior and cognition and thus allow women’s narcissism to exploit men to their own benefit which is to serve Feminism; you got to admit, this is some wicked ass genius system the Hamster developed. So, this reciprocity is analogous to the often irrational but highly effective female rationalization.

I am sure you already guessed what our strategy to defeat the Hamster is but let me just spell it out. Our first priority, which has been reiterated by MGTOW and is practiced by Herbivore Men, is to stop feeding the Hamster and starve it i.e. No More Pussy Pass, no more attention, no more White Knighting and no more vagina for money. We need to cut off the Narcissistic Supply just as the Herbivore Men did in Japan and women will be concern and afraid because they have just lost their meal ticket. We need to stop being exploited by women either for slave labor or emotional tampon.

The second strategy of our campaign which MGTOWs have correctly applied is the relentless assault on the beliefs held by Feminism. What we want to do is give more men the Red Pill because once they realize that they have been fooled, exploited and used; they will stop adhering to Gynocentrism and thus will stop feeding the Hamster as well.  

How do we do this to the individual woman?

Well, firstly stop giving them attention. No response is the best response. Do not pay them any more attention than they are due. Don’t get them coffee, don’t by them chocolates, don’t give them gifts, don’t gossip with them, don’t get involve with them in social media. Just Don’t. If you work with women then just focus on the work and not on the women. Next, you need to make women compete with you. Remember, you are designed as a Human Doing and are capable of fantastic feats that women find difficulty in achieving. Don’t waste your efforts by pandering to women and doing what they want you to do; let them do it by themselves and force them to really work. Make them feel the pain of working the same amount of overtime that you are doing. I assure you that over a long period of time, she will wake up from that experience and if she does not, then that is the kind of woman you do not want to be working with anyway.

You also need to start reprimand women when you see them indulging in their false feministic beliefs. Remember, feminism encourages gynocentrism and gynocentrism is the exploitation of you. So you do not want the women to be spreading propaganda that would enslave you to them. Argue with them if they have a stupid idea like #banbossy and if you can, prove to them that they are wrong by using examples, logic and reasoning. They will disagree with you – they are solipsistic after all – but the point is not to win the argument; the point is to make them doubt themselves. Their Hamster will start to spin the wheel violently to find the most absurd counter-argument that has nothing to do with the topic; ridicule and patronize them when they resort to this. You will know that you have gotten to them when they retreat from the argument and start resorting to cheap insults and sarcasm to try and shame you due to their Arrogance and Envy; respond by pointing out their childish behavior.

Remember to engage the fight in a calm and rational manner; take the intellectual and rational high ground so that when they become irrational, you can display their dramatic, erratic and emotionally disturbing psychosis to the public. Pick your fights wisely; do not engage in a fight without some documented evidence of it or she can claim sexual harassment. It is best to engage battles in public and record them so that you can disseminate the evidence for everyone to see. Always let women escalate the fight but if it seems that the women can actually engage in a meaningful discourse, respond in kind. Otherwise make sure you expose that person’s fraudulent behavior.

The reason we are doing this is because we want to penetrate the Hamster and target the woman’s Insecurities; that is the reason the Hamster is running. Force the woman to confront her own insecurities, make her feel ashamed of herself, make her cry, make her doubt her own abilities, make her truly assess herself objectively and make her grow up. Reward the woman if she succeeds in maturing and battle her again if she regresses. Again this is not a one-time event; it is a long continuous campaign so you really have to think about which fights you want to invest your time and effort. Still practice makes perfect and at least in the beginning especially using social media, you are going to need to engage in a lot of fights to learn what to say and how to say it. This is only my experience so please take it with circumspect. 

Lastly, I have to address on engaging the Feminazis; DON’T. Not unless you have an elaborate sure winning strategy but even then, you need to consider the cost and the outcome. Feminazis are fanatic believers of Feminism; they have conviction in their beliefs and they won’t change. What’s worse, there are Feminazis who are mature, working, rational, sensible but are just discriminatory against men. Their Hamster is not your normal Hamster, it’s a frankenhamster and I don’t have an answer on how to deal with those I’m afraid. I’ll be sure to let you know if I come up with anything. 

If anyone has anything more to add; such as other strategies and tactics that they have seen or tried, I implore you to share them with everyone. Thank you for reading.

Reference

Sunshine Mary (2013) Google translate does not offer English to Hamsterese so Deti is here to help you out. [online] May 10, 2013 available at Sunshine Mary http://sunshinemaryandthedragon.wordpress.com/2013/05/10/google-translate-does-not-offer-english-to-hamsterese-so-deti-is-here-to-help-you-out/ [accessed Mar 13, 2014]

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The Female Psychosis part 3: Solipsism

Okay, here is where things get a little tricky. With Egocentrism and Narcissism, there are a lot of articles and literature that support my findings. Solipsism however is not science but a concept based on philosophy. There are literatures about it but much like philosophy, it really depends on how well the topic is presented and discussed. In this way, Solipsism is open to many interpretations which I wholeheartedly welcome. My aim for this article is to convince you of my definition of Solipsism, and attempt to prove that women are Solipsistic to varying degrees. Hopefully I am able to give you – the reader – something worthwhile to consider. 

Before I begin, I also need to make a few caveats. Solipsism is not a psychological concept; it started out as an idea. Blue Pillers contend that this means Solipsism is not a behavioral trait; yeah, well, sort of. But if we agree Solipsism as an idea, then we can also agree that it can be a state of mind hence it also has psychological implications and applications. So in the process of making Solipsism relevant to us, I will borrow philosophical terms to explain approximately and accurately, to the best of my abilities, what Solipsism is; in the same spirit that we, throughout history, continue to invent and redefine terms to describe phenomena that we frequently encounter such as Gravity, Blackhole, Surfing, Selfie, Googling and etcetera.

I am the One and Only (nobody I’d rather be)

I have read a lot of definitions for Solipsism. Some say it is extreme egocentrism while some equate it to extreme Narcissism. I think philosophers tend to agree on the understanding of solipsism as Descartes’ Cogito Ergo Sum, - I think therefore I am. Descartes was in the view that the individual understands all psychological concepts -- such as thinking, willing, perceiving -- by analogy with his mental state. This led Descartes to doubt the existence of the world he perceived and he retreated to the only thing that he could not doubt; his own conscious self (Mastin, 2008). I find this to be the best definition of Solipsism and so I would like to use it.

Solipsism is to doubt the existence of the world that the person perceives and retreating to the only thing the person does not doubt; her own conscious mind.

In the context of the nature of existence and justified belief, Solipsism is the position that the mind is the only thing that can be known to be true and that knowledge of anything outside the mind is unjustified. That is just a fancy way of saying that solipsism means “I believe I’m the only one that is right base on what only I know; so you must be wrong even if you can prove you are right.” Unlike a narcissist who believes that your existence is only for her pleasure, or an egocentric who thinks you are her fan; to the Solipsistic, your arguments are relatively meaningless and only she can prove herself wrong but she cannot doubt her own self because she believes that only her own mind is meaningful. If you have ever argued with a woman, you will appreciate this axiom.

This is why many people misconstrue Solipsism with Narcissism and Egocentrism; on the surface, it seems that the person is arrogant or self-absorbed but that is not the case. Arrogance implies that she sees everyone as a threat of shame to her and Self-absorbed implies she engages in her own deluded fantasy. The Solipsistic does not acknowledge you as a threat because you are meaningless to her. She also engages the real world but rejects anything that she does not agree with and any evidence contrary to her liking is dismissed.

Oh yeah, it is total bullshit but you have to appreciate the utter fuckery of it all. And as case evidence, here is the video of Chelsea, explaining the meaning of miles per hour.

Travis Chambers 2011

Okay yes this is hilarious but do note the underlying salient point here. This woman is convinced – convinced – that she is right. Key phrases such as “you don’t make sense, I make sense,” and “you don’t know the answer! You’re guesstimating like I’m guesstimating,” shows that Chelsea from the video had no doubt in her mind that she was correct; this is not something that you get from mere egocentrism or narcissism. No, this sense of unconditional trust to one’s own mind in the face of overwhelming evidence is akin to religious fanatical blind faith and that is exactly what Solipsism is.

There will be people out there who is going to say “Come on! She’s just dumb!” This is inaccurate; real stupidity implies learning disability. Chelsea understood the question before trying and failing beautifully to solve it because she could only conceptualize the problem by analogy to her own experiences, “If I run a mile in 9 minutes but if I’m in shape it’s 7 minutes.” No, what she has is a steadfast faith that the correct answer to the question lies within her own personal thoughts and experiences and not from scientific conclusions or deductive reasoning. This can be an argument why women are so under-represented in STEM fields; solipsistic women are unable to conceptualize, and are sceptical of, abstractions that are bigger and far removed from their perspective such as science, technology, engineering or mathematics.

This type of baseless trust is the same as the belief in the paranormal and superstition but instead of a belief in a phenomenon in the absence of evidence, Solipsism doubts everything even when there is solid proof.  This is why Solipsism is the worst of all possible bullshit philosophy and the reason people think philosophers are jackasses (Brown, 2007). Now, that is not to say that Solipsism, Narcissism and Egocentrism are not related; they definitely are. If Egocentrism is the thought process and Narcissism is the behavioral trait, Solipsism then is the principal tenet.

If Narcissism mutated from a child’s Relativistic Hedonism, Solipsism is derived from a child’s egocentric Morality of Constraints (Crosser, 2014) -- where the child is rigid in morals and rules with the exception of herself -- transfigured into a dogmatic and zealous trust of one’s own mind even in the face of overwhelming evidence.

There’s only right and wrong       à     I only know I’m right, so you’re always wrong

(Morality of Constraints)             à                               (Solipsism)

I Don’t Want To See You

Flanagan (1991:144-145) wrote that Piaget was of the opinion that an infant perceives the world as full of objects that go in and out of view which therefore from her perspective go in and out of existence. Flanagan went on to mention that a child under 8 years old behaves like a metaphysical idealist (Morality of Constraints) and an epistemological relativist (Relativistic Hedonism), where she frequently mistakes between what appears to be reality and her perspective as the perspective. A cat 5 feet away is bigger than the car 50 feet away so the cat is bigger. This is what is called Infant Solipsism and all children are somewhat solipsistic.

To apply this to our context, I would like to introduce a similar concept called Infantile Solipsism which is when a woman perceives the world as full of appliances that go up and down in terms of its use to her which therefore from her perspective can go from meaningful to meaningless. Now please take a moment to consider that statement; if from her perspective something is considered as meaningless, that means that thing does not exist at least in her mind. 

Infantile Solipsism is ‘you only see what you want to see,’ although that is only half of it because ‘you also won’t see what you don’t want to see.’ This can explain why some people – especially Narcissist – have difficulty empathizing with others; if you are meaningless to her then all your actions are meaningless. It also explain why women can easily dismiss obvious evidences so easily; if something is meaningless then it does not exist and conversely, if she perceives something as non-existent then every meaningful detail attached to that thing is null. How do we prove this?

In part 2 of this series I examine the Narcissism exhibited by the British Suffragette’s Movement of 1906. Remember, Narcissism is the behavior and not the belief; the suffragettes believed that they were oppressed by not being able to vote at a time when 6 out of 10 men could not vote either (manwomanmyth 2010). You see, to the feminists and suffragettes, they perceive these men as meaningless and worthless and so they did not exist.

These women only saw the men who owned land, hence they believed that all men owned land and could vote and thus were oppressing women while not acknowledging the majority of men who could not vote too. But when the First World War started and they needed men to fight, Emmeline and her daughter Christabel Pankhurst saw a use for these men who could not vote and shamed them to die for the war. It was their deaths and not their lives that were meaningful to the feminists; these men were still worthless in their Infantile Solipsist view.

And this is why there is such a thing as Male Disposability; because when women view men as worthless, they are then disposable. This is why when the Titanic sank, women and children and not men were put on lifeboats and were saved (Straughan 2011). That is why when men die in coal mines no one gives a damn. This is why veterans of war are repeatedly abandoned by their country after they have served them honorably. It is due to this female solipsistic belief that the majority of men are meaningless and worthless.

Infantile Solipsism is also the principal belief behind the sense of entitlement. A woman only sees those who are wealthier than her, she becomes envious and she wants that wealth for herself, not acknowledging that there are many people around her that are not as well off as she is. She only feels her wants and that is being entitled for a luxurious lifestyle; her belief in this sense of self-entitlement drives her to search for ways to achieve that goal which leads to Hypergamy.

https://www.youtube.com/watch?v=WwOlhnWNxnk

menrightsTV (2010)

What? Not All Women Are Like That? Here’s a clip from the other side of the world.

German MGTOW (2013)

And we know that women all over the world are hypergamous because a study conducted worldwide across 37 cultures strongly support the position that women prefer marriage partners who either have or have the potential to obtain social status and control material resources (Buss 1989). This study included that women rated ‘good financial prospect’ higher than did men in all cultures. Hence most women are hypergamous and this belief that they deserve a luxury stems from their self-absorbed, envious, infantile perspective that they are entitled to such things. 

But it does not stop there.

Among the most fundamental belief that the woman ascribe to is the belief that women are not actors in their own lives but are acted upon which is called Female Hypoagency (Ginkgo 2011). Women believe that they lack the ability act, to affect things and produce no effects (ThinkingApe-TV 2012). Women only want to see men do things and do not want to see themselves doing it; this is Infantile Solipsism. And because they only want believe to this, they demand others – specifically men – to do and act for them in what is termed as Male Hyperagency. Feminism then can be viewed as a belief system – a religion – based on feminine tenets such as Female Hypoagency where the feminazis cry victim to the Descartian-like Evil Demon fantasy of the Patriarchy or the traditionalist maidens feign damseling to the Gynocracy.

Gynocentrism then is cultural Male Hyperagency which is one of the most blatantly Narcissistic Exploitation by women. Gynocentrism includes the idea that men should slave and sacrifice themselves for women and that women’s dysfunctional behavior should be forgiven and forgotten i.e. Narcissistic Supply and the Pussy Pass. Feminism is the organized religion of Female Solipsistic Psychosis that spawned and nurtured Gynocentrism which is the cultural enslavement of men that includes sending men to their death in wartime. Gynocentrism is essentially, the systemic gender violence discrimination of men; Gynocentrism is Misandry.

And we can prove this Misandry by looking at Rape Shield Laws where men cannot even defend themselves against the woman’s accusations of rape which was proven to be false such as the Duke Lacrosse case (Appleborne 2007). We can also look at British Crime Survey that puts domestic violence against men by women in the U.K. at 40% and how the society at large ignore this (Hoyle 2013). We can also see how British society is so blatantly biased against fathers that 60% of household in cities such as Cardiff, Liverpool and Sheffield is fatherless (Sawer, 2013). All of this proves that Gynocentrism and Feminism are both discriminatory and evil.

Below is a graphical example of the relationship between Egocentrism, Narcissism and Solipsism

continued in The Female Psychosis part 4: The Rationalization Hamster

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